Thursday, November 13, 2008
What's your EQ?
What is your EQ? This post follows up our class discussion on Emotional Inelligence Please review this article entitled "Teaching Emotional Intelligence In The Business School Curriculum" by Frank Bellizzi, Quinnipiac University. Then, check out this self test. Please create a post that makes application to your own emotional intelligence based on this reading, the results of your self test and any other experiences or readings on this subject.. The blog post should share your top two "personal" EQ improvements. What needs to be improved to develop your emotional intelligence? Share with us your personal strategies and/or plans to put them into action. Why might developing a high EQ be important to your long time success? Post due by Wed., Dec. 3.
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I scored a 124 on the Emotional Intelligence test. According to this test, this means that I generally am able to overcome the difficulties in my life and able to control my moods in “all but the most trying of times.” Furthermore, people who score in this range tend to find social interactions fulfilling and are comfortable in allowing themselves getting close to others. It also says that this score indicates finding it easy to offer support to others due to an empathetic nature and clear mind when it comes to offering advice.
I feel as though many people who take this kind of test often times to like to believe what the results indicate, especially when they are positive. That being said however, I do feel that a lot of what the results point out are somewhat accurate. I’ve found that I really do enjoy talking to people in the sense of being there for them when they are dealing with hardships. I like that feeling of being trusted and being the person my friends choose to come to when they are having a problem. Furthermore, when it comes to dealing with my own problems I feel that I am often able to keep my emotions and moods under control.
The article by Frank Bellizi discusses the importance of emotional intelligence in the workplace. I agree that this is something that every individual should be aware of. If people are more aware of how the act in certain social interactions, and perhaps figure out why in some cases, they can learn how to control certain negative displays of emotion or how to convey them appropriately.
Although not necessarily depicted by my EQ, I do believe that I tend to have a level of reluctance when it comes to sharing certain feelings with others. While I do enjoy talking to people, I have realized that I tend to keep my guard up when it comes to dealing with my own issues. While it is likely a good thing not to be overly emotional, especially with instances within the workplace, I feel like this is something I should work on developing. By keeping certain things to myself, I may miss an opportunity to convey an idea or opinion that would be beneficial to others. For example, in a work situation, if I do not speak up about something that is bothering me or express an opposing idea, I may be hindering myself and my capabilities, more than I am protecting myself.
I believe I can work on this my becoming more assertive. That is one characteristic/skill I have always had issues developing. This is probably stemmed from my tendency to be shy around people I do not know all that well. However, I am at a stage in my life where the ability to be assertive is a need, and if executed properly, will show to be beneficial in many cases. I intend on working on this by trying to be more comfortable and confident in the skills and abilities I already have. Hopefully this will allow me to be more assertive when appropriate. Furthermore, by developing these skills before entering the “real” world, I will find it easier to use them when necessary.
Snapshot Report
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 115
Subscale percentile = 84
According to the self-report answers, my emotional intelligence is average. I scored a 115 on the self test. It states that people who score like me, do feel that their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is acceptable but could still use some improvement. The test states that emotionally intelligent people have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are generally able to control their moods. I thought that this was so true, because it is really easy for me to control my moods. It’s also easy for me to motivate myself to overcome obstacles and reach my set goals.
In addition, the test stated that I find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. It is factual, I do find it comfortable to allow myself to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. The test also reports that I have an easy time offering support to others; likely due to my empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice. Perhaps by working on my problem areas, I do believe that I can learn to share more information about certain feelings with others. While I do enjoy talking to people, I have realized that I tend to keep to myself on some of my problems instead of seeking help.
The test states that I can become more confident in dealing with my own emotions and those of others. Another issue that I can overcome is dealing with certain conflict issues, sometimes I can be a sore loser during a conflict where I think I am right, and I tend to mute out others and keep to myself. This is a problem where I definitely need to work on; Frank Bellizi discusses the importance of emotional intelligence in the workplace.
I agree that this is important in the workplace, being able to control certain negative displays of emotion. I plan to fix this issue by opening up more, and listening more to others, allowing their information to be heard. It is not a big problem of mine, but it tends to come up a lot during discussions of sports, and sports talk is such a common ice breaker among people in the work field.
Developing a high EQ would be really important for me in the long run, because it would make me a better well rounded person, whether in the work field or not; I would be able to express my feelings, and be willing to listen to others without a problem. I just have to practice more, day by day.
According to Queendom.com, people with high emotional intelligence tend to be more successful in life than those with lower EIQ even if their classical IQ is average. Depending on a person’s level of emotional intelligence will determine how well they will flourish in life, in relationships, and performances at work.
I learned a lot about my own emotional intelligence after reading the article by Frank Bellizi and from taking the self test on queendom.com. The article made me realize the importance of emotional intelligence. One of the most important things the article mentioned was that corporations and businesses are not run like a scientific experiment but rather as a giant problem solving endeavor. The article then goes on to says that the human factor is a key ingredient in the formula for success.
Before taking the emotional intelligence test I felt that I would score very high because I feel like I have my emotions under control and I am able to handle myself in many different types of situations. However, after taking the self-test I discovered that my emotional intelligence level is only average. According to the report, I believe that I need to improve my abilities offering support to others as well as motivating myself to overcome obstacles and reach my goals.
In order to improve in these areas I need to become more aware of my emotions and feelings. I also need to become more sensitive to others in their times of need and offer more support to them. I will also plan on making more goals for myself that I can always be working toward. These goals can take place in my academic and personal lives.
I will be improving my life in many ways by working toward having a higher EQ. I believe that my performances in school and at work will improve greatly as well as in my personal relationships. I think it is important for everyone to know their strengths and weaknesses emotionally and work on improving to have better emotional stability.
According to author Frank Bellizzi, Quinnipiac University in an article, Teaching Emotional Intelligence in The Business School Curriculum, appearing in the American Journal of Business Education 2008, Bellizzi believes the ability to manage one’s emotions and emotions as we interact with others, is key to being an effective manager. Bellizzi developed a curriculum surrounding the following keywords:
• Emotional intelligence
• Self management
• Self awareness
• EQ/IQ
• Interpersonal dynamics
• Self understanding
• Self control
• Self disclosure.
Bellizzi refers to the work of Daniel Goleman’s who in 1990’s reports on both the importance and the application of emotional intelligence in the workplace. Goleman supports the belief that the way in which a person manages their emotions is directly related to their abilities as a leader or manager. He also believes our culture has been both the cause and the root to how we read ourselves, react to what we feel and likewise, read and react to others.
Goleman states that in learning how to work with our EQ and keeping in mind that our ties are to a society that has formed who were are based on acceptable societal mores, or as he refers to as “the intellect rules and emotions,” which have been engrained within us and that these emotions must be laid under the surface of our emotional being if we desire to achieve success.
Goleman believes if we can properly harness our emotions, we can enrich our lives improving not in the workplace, but in other areas as well such as interpersonal relationships, child rearing and personal growth.
Recently, in taking the online emotional intelligence test created by Queendom, there were several aspects of my EIQ that I was not aware of. According to Queendom, tests mostly focus on intelligence based on evaluating logical reasoning, math skills, spatial skills, understanding analogies, verbal skills etc. But while IQ could reveal academic performance and certain aspects of professional and personal success, the results were not complete enough.
A person may have a very high IQ score but not become a success. Also, Goleman found that thanks to a wide range of abilities, people with high emotional intelligence tend to be more successful in life than those with lower EIQ even if their classical IQ is average.
Bennis and O‟Toole authored an article from the May 2005 of the Harvard Business Review states,“business schools are graduating students who are ill-equipped to wrangle with complex, unquantifiable issues- in other words, the stuff of management.”
Educators need to create a learning experience that includes unquantifiable issues, such as, personal and interpersonal competence, leadership and supervisory skills, conflict resolution, diversity, and communication skills.
After reviewing my EIQ scores from the test offered by Queendom, I have a better idea as to how to improve my interpersonal and business relationships to benefit both my personal and professional success. The EI test revealed both my strengths and weaknesses. I believe there is a level of emotion that should be both expressed and garnered in any relationship and certainly ones intelligence should be evaluated beyond the simple math, English and science tests one takes during their lifetime.
The knowledge of both strengths and limitations can certainly make a difference in the success that someone can accomplish in a lifetime.
My Emotional Intelligence Test results were as followed:
Overall results
IQ score = 117
Percentile score = 87
My Self-report Component, score of 128, My score is representative of someone who believes has little trouble understanding and dealing with my emotions as well as the emotions of others.
My Emotional Insight score of 106, illustrates that I am in tune with my emotions and by establishing the reasons why something bothers me, I am more apt to find the solution.
In Emotional Expressions, I scored 136. My score was very high and reveals I am extremely good at expressing my feelings and communicating emotions with others. I can articulate my emotions in just about all situations, and usually can deal with others who are highly emotional. I am more communicative, assertive and more self confident then most and generally because I can relate my feelings easily, form mature and intimate relationships with others.
My Motivational EQ is 155 revealing I have the ability to self motivate and I have above average self discipline and inner drive to work towards my goals and not depend on others for praise or encouragement.
In the area of Recognition of Emotions, I scored a 117. It appears I am so-so at these skills and average in comparison of others in this area. A downside is, that I may not be reading peoples body language accurately and therefore, not approach them correctly.
My Emotional Integration, with a score of 105 suggests my ability in this area is rather low, and although I can easily sense how people are feeling, if it is a situation where something is at stake such as my career, I tend to rely more on my personal reaction of this situation rather then reading it.
A score of 123 in Emotional Insightfulness states I am able to see inside of people better than most regarding facial and body language communication, and that I am able to look at several aspects of people’s personalities and draw pretty sound conclusions. I also have a strong amount of empathy for others and come across as genuine.
In Control and Maintenance of Emotions, I scored 104. I am limited in my ability to find appropriate solutions to problems as they may arise or helping others do so if I am emotionally drawn into the situation.
My EQ strengths include:
• Excellent emotional IQ level
• High overall self-reported emotional intelligence
• High comfort with expressing emotions
• High amount of goal orientation and motivation
• High opinion of own emotional intelligence
• Good ability to recognize emotions in others
• Possesses good insight into the emotions of others
The personal EQ improvements I could make that would be beneficial would be to:
• Work at understanding myself better
• Be more aware of my feelings and what triggers them
• Know when it’s best to express my feelings and not have knee jerk reactions at inappropriate times or situations
• Do what I can to strengthen my weaknesses that really matter but not let them control my life
What needs to be improved to develop anyone’s emotional intelligence is to realize that all human beings have the ability to modify behavior. Second, is to what degree, as measured in time, they have or need to sustain that modification or change. For example, if I had to change or modify my behavior for twenty minutes out of the day, I would be very successful. However, if I needed to modify my behavior for the entire day, my chances of success would diminish appreciably.
My personal strategy or plan to develop my emotional IQ would be to judge the situation to see what level of behavioral modification will be required which will provide the insight as to how successful I will be. Now that I understand my strengths, to learn how to maximize those every day.
The overall success I can achieve by developing a high EQ would be self awareness and practicality regarding strengths and limitations.
Snapshot Report
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 108
Subscale percentile= 70
According to the self report answer, my emotional intelligence is slightly below average. The results say that people that score like me feel that their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is just barley acceptable. When I saw the results I felt that they where inaccurate because I have encountered situations where I had to understand and deal with both my emotions and another persons emotions, I can say that I have been successful in dealing with both at the same time and I am very acceptable to these situations. I can understand that there are times that it can be hard to deal with both but I think I am able to do it. I have learned that emotionally intelligent people find it easy to overcome difficulties and take control over their moods. When a person gets emotional some times they tend to do things that the next day they regret doing. Its important to be able to controls one’s emotions especially when making decisions. I sometimes find myself making decisions when I am mad for some reason and later on I come to find that I would have made a better decision if I would have waited for my anger to pass.
When I read the article by Frank Bellizzi I learned that for the business world and even the professional life emotional intelligence is important. To be able to manage my emotions shows wisdom and determination to get a mission done. If I was on a mission from my job, having emotional intelligence helps because I will get things done with out being held back by any type of emotions.
The article teaching emotional intelligence in the business school curriculum I learned how it’s important to learn about myself and know where to improve. This course would be very helpful for me because they have discussions with large group about emotional intelligence and encourages taking risks and learning new thing about oneself. This test has made me think more in-depth about managing my emotions and has helped me realize where I stand. I believe that if I can manage my emotions to a point where I feel that I have control over them then I can say that I have improved my EQ.
Another improvement is to be able to have a better relationship with others in general. I plan to be more out going and try to stop all silent awkwardness when I am around other people that I do not know. I think those are my two improvements for my IQ to go up.
After reading the article about emotional intelligence I will provide you with my understanding of emotional intelligence as well as my personal Emotional Intelligence.
Emotional intelligence is essential in the workplace and in order for co-workers to communicate and work together effectively. Ideally, people should have the ability to recognize which feelings are appropriate in which situation and the ability to communicate those feelings effectively. This type of intelligence is just as critical as intellect when on the job. It includes being able to deal with emotions without being overcome by them, channeling feelings to assist in achieving goals, being able to understand how others feel without their spelling it out, and listening to others feelings so you can learn from them. In the corporate world, so much work is done by teams, but a team will not be very successful if the members don’t have any emotional intelligence. There’s a saying that goes something like, “It’s not what you know; it’s how you apply what you know.” As I prepare myself for interviews and life after college, I’ve been reading in articles that a person with an average resume, but outstanding communication skills will likely be hired for a job over someone with a nice looking resume, but poor communication skills. Obviously, there must be a reason for that. It is because employers are realizing that emotional intelligence which is part of effective communicating is just as important as and sometimes more important than book smarts. With that being said, I have experienced that first hand. In my early working career my emotional intelligence has seemed to get me a long way. I applied for a job with “College Financial Consultants” and they required the employee to have a bachelor’s degree, yet I had only graduated High School that past summer, and I got the job over 5 other people. I am very proud to say that I was able to get the job based on who I am as a person. Another experience that I have had with emotional intelligence has to do with people, in general. I feel that it is imperative to be able to communicate with people rather than spout a bunch of scholarly information. People want to know that you “get it” as in life. When I decided to transfer to the college of New Jersey it was VERY late in the year and the transfer deadline application was expired. Although, when I realized that I truly wanted to go to school here I was not going to give up until I got in this fall semester. I knew that my grades wouldn’t hold me back because my GPA was clearly high, so my IQ proved itself. However, I had missed the deadline and that was it; most kids would have said I guess I will have to wait until spring semester to apply. But I did not stop there. I made it a point to talk with Mr. Kelly Williams in the transfer office and explain to him why I would be an outstanding student at TCNJ and why I believe that I should be able to go there this fall semester. With my emotional intelligence, and who I am as an individual I think that it has done me well and gotten me VERY far in life. But that is not to say there isn’t room for improvement. Change and improvement are two of the most important things in life. If one cannot accept change, one cannot progress forward nor can they be successful. And improvement, it is imperative to be able to improve and get better at things, especially the way the world is changing. That is why I know that I still have a lot of improving to do with my emotional intelligence, and growing into a wonderful and purposeful human being. I plan to facilitate this improvement by staying on the path in which I have created for myself. That is: living each day to my fullest, being considerate, understanding, and loving towards others, open minded rationale, and most importantly a good listener as well as communicator. I hope that I will continue to stay on this path and allow my IQ to flourish as well as my EQ. So remember, with a good IQ you might be able to get the job done, but with intellect as well as good emotional intelligence you can get the job done best.
My EQ reads… “According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is excellent. People who score like you do feel that they have almost no trouble understanding and dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are able to control their goals. In addition, they find social interaction to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; this is likely due to an empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice”.
SNAPSHOT REPORT
SELF-REPORT COMPONENT
SUBSCALE IQ SCORE=135
SUBSCALE PERCENTILE=99
On my emotional Intelligence test I scored a 127 and a 96 in the subscale percentile. According to this my emotional intelligence was "good". People who score like me generally feel that they have little trouble understanding and dealing with their own feelings and those of others. This score reveals that I am able to overcome difficulties, and able to control my moods. It is easy for me to motivate myself to reach my goals. Social interactions are easy and fulfilling. I offer good advice and can be empathetic.
In general, I do feel that the test results represent me. I have always been comfortable in social situations and I enjoy helping others and offering advice. After reading the article by Frank Bellizzi I realized how important my emotional intelligence is to become successful in life. Bellizzi explains that emotional intelligence is pertinent in the work place, relationships, child bearing, and personal development and fulfillment. A high EI gives us the ability to manage interactions with others and keeps us aware of acting on our emotions in appropriate ways. I think that every person should experience a class like Belizzi's EI class. It is important for people to learn how to address personal and interpersonal skills, how to develop leadership, how to act in conflict resolution, and how to improve of communication skills. If everyone communicated their emotions correctly, it would make work environments much more cohesive.
Two places where I can Make EQ improvements are: 1) To learn how to be proud of my hard work even before I receive positive feedback
2) To offer advice without saying "I know how you feel" or "I know what you mean"
Plans to put them into action:
1) I have to have confidence in my own work. To do this I will have to remind myself that I worked hard on the assignment and that I completed it to the best of my ability. Once I complete my work I should be proud of it, knowing the hard work that I put into it, instead of waiting for a positive response for a teacher or a peer. If I am proud of my own work, it should not matter what others think or say about it.
2) My EQ results reveal that I have a clear mind when offering advice. I love to offer advice, because I enjoy helping others. One thing I would like to work on, however, is to offer advice without telling someone that "I know how they feel". Saying this often undermines their problem. How could I know how they are feeling? I am not them and they have different feelings then me. Even if I had a similar experience, I still do not understand completely how they are feeling. Also, when I do this I feel that I bring the attention back to me. When my friend or family member has a problem, they should have all of my attention. This is something I can change by saying instead "This must be very hard for you, what can I do to help?"
Developing a higher EQ is important to my long term success because for the rest of my life I will be working with people and developing interpersonal relationships. Knowing how to communicate properly, keeping EI in mind, is important in finding a job, working with others on projects, and sustaining healthy relationships. In the work place, especially if I go into PR, I will have to communicate and work closely with people on a daily basis. If my colleges and I are working on a project, I want a high EI to help me figure out how to work with each person, how to read their body language and tone of voice, and how to get along with them so that we can work together and work successfully. I think a high EI is important for any work place in order to work with people to accomplish projects and goals. Further, a high EI is important in sustaining healthy family relationships. Developing a higher emotional intelligence will be helpful in understanding how to communicate with my family members effectively, and how to help them overcome and to accomplish their goals.
Overall, I scored 125 on the Queendom.com EQ test. According to the website, this is a slightly below average score. Apparently, people like me "find their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is just barely acceptable." I am in the 63rd percentile when it comes to this score.
I have actually taken this test before, for a Psychology class. I find the tests on Queendom to be quite fascinating. The EQ test, however, is the most interesting.
As Frank Bellizi states in his article, "The ability to manage one's emotions and to manage one's interactions with others is tantamount to effective managerial leadership." This is indeed, the case. In business, one must be able to communicate effectively, and a huge part of that is Emotional Intelligence. My mother was the first to tell me about EQ, and has pushed how important it is since I can remember.
I feel that the reason my EQ is a bit low is because I do not have all of the self-confidence that I should. I may come across as quite confident and secure, but deep down, I am still unsure of myself. I get along well with people and have many friends who I can talk to about anything. I am an open book and not that guarded. People like to be around me and I like to be around people. It is simply my self-esteem that needs working on, I guess.
I think my top two areas that require improvement are self-confidence and self-esteem. They are similar, but different. I must begin to put more value in myself and not be picky about the little things that I am unable to change. I also have to become more confident in my ability to change or improve those things I can. I can start by thinking everyday of a few things that make me successful, because I know I am. Hopefully, with this "inner work" I will be able to start to become more confident and "emotionally smart" on the outside.
As the article discusses, the importance of Emotional Intelligence in the workplace is "tantamount." This is why we must all learn to become more emotionally intelligent.By becoming more emotionally smart, I will be more versatile in the business world and more vertically mobile. With a high EQ, I will be a better communicator and therefore, more able to move around in the industry and better yet, more likely to get that promotion!
According to the article entitled, "Teaching Emotional Intelligence In The Business School Curriculim" by Frank Bellizzi, soon to be college graduates "...will need to be prepared to integrate their technical competency with their emotional intelligence if they are to achieve success in the corporate world." Because of this, it is obviously very important for students (and people in general) to know where they stand on the Emotional Intelligence scale.
Upon taking a self test of Emotional Intelligence from a testing website, I learned many things about myself. I achieved a Subscale IQ score of 111 and a subscale percentile of 79. According to the test, on the Emotional Intelligence scale, this is an average score. People who score like me feel that their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is acceptable but could still use some improvement. In analyzing this statement, I see that the test basically says that even though I can usually be emotionally stable and help other people (and myself) emotionally, I still need to improve in certain aspects.
Although I believe that for many people the results of taking this particular test may be a helpful, I don't feel that I would base any kind of intelligence that I have on my results. The results that I attained stated that I had an average amount of emotional intelligence. I feel that this was totally and completely false, however. I work very well with other people, and I maintain healthy relationships with everyone that I know. I have been in business situations where people have complimented on both my personality and the way that I carry myself in certain situations. For all of the above stated reasons, I believe that my test results were very inaccurate.
Although I think that my test results were very inaccurate, I acknowledge that I do have some emotional characteristics that could use some improvement. One is that I could have a little bit more self-confidence. I sometimes have the habit of putting myself down even when I did a good job at something. This is definitely something I should work on. Another improvement I could make is to improve they way that I see other people. I sometimes only look at the negative aspects of other people, and not enough at the positive aspects of people. With these two improvements I should definitely be able to acheive more success in my future career.
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 123
Subscale percentile = 95
My emotional intelligence was categorized as good according to Queendom.com. I, however, feel differently. I believe many of the things that this pre-written diagnosis says, yet feel I have more qualities within myself. Written in this diagnosis it says that I have little trouble dealing and understanding my emotions. I feel after going through some of the things that I have over the last 10 or so years, I have built quite the knowledge of myself and my emotions. I do agree that I am generally able to overcome obstacles in my life and control my emotions in most situations. This is almost completely true based on the experiences of my past. I have been forced to overcome my obstacles in order to survive in my life, and take pride in these qualities.
Something that I think I need to improve about my emotional intelligence would be becoming very close with friends. I have a lot of friends whom I have casual relationships, but I don't trust a lot of people with my heart and my emotions. Although my report says I react effectively in social situations, I am still always on the lookout for the traits in people that prove they won't be honest and true to me.
Another quality that was mentioned was that I am a very empathetic person. I do care about other people's feelings, even if they don't directly involve me, and this open doors for my empathetic nature to be taken advantage of. I tend to be way too nice to some people, and can't seem to stand up to it for some reason! I just don't want to hurt anyone's feelings!
Because emotional intelligence is so important in the workplace, as well as in personal situations, like Frank Bellizi states, it is important that I have a strong emotional intelligence to ensure a successful future for myself and everyone around me. My emotional intelligence effects everyone whom I interact with, and it needs to be under control and strong in order to have the best relationships and environments possible. I can definitely improve certain parts of my EI that can benefit my future and all of the people in it. I just have to work at progressing as a person and a strong individual.
My Emotional IQ score was a 118 which placed me in the 90th percentile. The test says that while my emotional intelligence is average, I may feel that I need improvement. According to my score, I feel that how i relate and respond to others and deal with my emotions as well as other people's emotions is acceptable.
I feel that my score and the description of my emotional intelligence are both accurate. I consider myself an understanding and empathetic person who relates well to others. I am capable of setting goals for myself and motivating myself to achieve them without other people's encouragement. However, I sometimes feel that I can often lose sight of the importance issues at hand when too many smaller problems arise which cause me to lose my patience. Also, I sometimes feel uncomfortable when people are too emotional around me; I'm not sure how to react to make them feel better.
The article by Bellizi addresses the act that emotional intelligence is extremely important in today's workplace. No matter how well you did in college and how well you understand business concepts, if you can't interact and understand other individuals you are doomed for failure. I know just from working in small group projects for class how important relating to others and understanding someone else's circumstances and points of view are. If you dont communicate and don't relate to your group members on a non-work level then it is impossible to strategize and work with those same people on a less fundamental level. I realize that emotional intelligence is important for the workplace and that I must improve my skills.
Two personal EQ improvements which I need to achieve are keeping my calm when things start to go wrong and dealing with people's emotional problems and needs rather than running away from them. In order to stay calm under situations that are not going my way, I think I need to keep my focus on the "big picture" - the fact that this little problem is not the end of the world. I also should try to put myself in someone else's shoes if I feel they are being uncooperative because maybe they have a reason. In order to make myself more comfortable around overly emotional people I should take more time to consider their situation and think about what would make me feel better.
Developing a high EQ is important to my long-term success because it is a fundamental skill that you build off of. If you start at your first job and people know you are understanding and reasonable then getting promoted or recommendations will be easier. Therefore, being emotionally self-aware builds good relationships that last throughout your career.
Snapshot Report
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 124
Subscale percentile = 95
According to the Emotional Intelligence test, I have little trouble understanding and dealing with my emotions and those of others. I have always felt that I am empathetic to others when they face problems. My friends know I will try and help them in any way I can to make sure they feel better.
When I face difficulty, I can usually overcome them and control my emotions in most situations unless it's exceptionally stressful. This I understand and acknowledge that I do have this problem. I will be prone to cry if I'm too stressed because I need a release from it. I find that if given time to just go through it, I will bounce back even better because I had that moment. It's inconvenient but manageable.
I think the way I can work towards getting rid of that unnecessary trouble I have with dealing with stress is to do more activities. I have learned that doing more physical activities can stimulate my hormone and stress levels and keep them down. I don't go out of my way to do a lot of physical activity so this could be a good way to work off my stress.
It also says I am able to self-motivate to reach my goals and social interactions can be fun for me.
The article by Frank Bellizi discusses that the emotional intelligence can be very important to everyone on a professional level. I agree that being able to see stressful situations and uncomfortable intimate levels as a way to help a person become a better business person. Many companies look for employees who can work well with others and keep the energy level up in the group moral and culture of the company.
I plan to become better with this issue by opening up more, and listening more to others, allowing their information to be heard. Sometimes I get too excited about what is going on with me to listen to others. Although it isn't a big issue for me, I want to improve my social skills in the work environment.
The emotional intelligence is important tool to help companies find the best employees who will display the qualities that the company feel are the best. As I said, most companies want employees who work well with others but they also want someone that can handle the pressure of the job and such. If a person does not have good emotional intelligence, they may have problems understanding when someone is over-stressed, or when they need to focus on something else.
According to the Frank Bellizzi and queendom.com articles on emotional intelligence, a high EQ, or EIQ, holds infinite potential for success in all aspects of life. A high EIQ leads to the ability to solve complex problems both alone and with others in a group. It is said that even if an individual has a low intelligence for information retention and technical aspects, a high EIQ can still lead to success because of the ability to make and keep relationships and contacts. EIQ is shown to lead to success in business, cooperative work, friendships and intimate relationships.
Bellizzi emphasizes the human factor which is present in the workings of all corporations. Many times, businesses have to work in cooperation within themselves or with competing firms to achieve their goals. People who are able to work with others have to hold a clear understanding of both their own and others’ emotions. This ability holds they key to successfully running the ”think-tank” called a business.
Based on the online EIQ test on queendom.com, I have an EIQ of 129 which is ranked as a ”good” EIQ. Based on these results, I can easily overcome difficulties in life and am able to control my moods at almost all times. Furthermore, the results state that social interactions come easily and I often use self motivation to achieve my goals. Lastly, my EIQ describes me as able to be fulfilled with both social and intimate relationships, with an emphasis in the ability to provide good advice and support.
Although the online test provided me with no ideas for improvement, I have a few of my own ideas for improving my social and emotional interactions. I feel that although it is easy for me to establish conversation once the ice has been broken with a stranger, conversation ice breakers are one of my particular weaknesses. I also find that I sometimes suffer from ”know-it-all-ism” when pertaining to some of my personal ideas and goals. However, this sometimes unyielding nature also provides a track for leadership and managerial potential. I plan on overcoming these weaknesses by experimenting with ice breakers throughout my life and trying to see things from others’ perspectives to ease in the ability to establish complete cooperation.
I have always been aware of the importance of good social skills in business and personal relationships. The online EIQ test helped me realize that there is a vast variety of emotional abilities that coincide with good social skills. Emotional attributes such as clear thinking and the ability to read other people's emotions prove useful in proper communication. A high EIQ can truly lead to success in life, business and relationships.
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 104
Subscale percentile = 61
According to the results of the Emotional Intelligence test, I am average. My ability to deal with and understand my own and others' emotions is acceptable. Also according to this test I am not very willing to allow myself to get close to other people and vice-versa. I also have an average comfort level when giving advice to others.
I have actually taken this test before in "Organizational Behavior" and the results were very different. This time when I took the test, the results indicated that I was average. The first time I took the test the results informed me that I had below average Emotional Intelligence. The large difference of the two leads me to believe that the results, for the most part, do not express the true Emotional Intelligence of a person.
According to the Emotional Intelligence tests, I have a hard time helping others deal with their emotions. This is not true at all. I have always been known as the person that people talk to when they have a problem. Although this attribute is false, there is one that is true.
There is one true attribute that appeared in the results of both tests. Both tests agreed that I have a very low ability to be comfortable with others, in terms of sharing deep thoughts. Although I enjoy meeting new people and developing new friendships, I do not feel comfortable expressing myself. I am comfortable to express an opinion, but when it comes to "intimate" feelings, I shut down. To be honest, I really have no idea how I can "work" on this. I suppose I can start by opening up to people that are close to me.
In theory, the Emotional Intelligence test is there to show whether or not you can accurately express yourself, regardless of the situation. By being able to understand and deal with you own and others emotions, you will be more efficient in dealing with people in the workplace. If I learn to express myself better, I too can learn to express myself better in the workplace. This will mean that I will be more comfortable in high stress situations. I will also be able to recover after being in a high stress situation and the stress will not linger over me. Learning to do this will be extremely beneficially in the long run.
The results of the self survey said that I have an IQ score of 123 and I am in the 95 percentile. The results explained that I feel I have little ability to read other people’s emotions and I sometimes struggle to control my own. I am able to overcome difficulties in my life and I can control my mood relatively well, unless it is a difficult time. I am able to motivate myself to overcome my obstacles. Social interaction comes easy to me because I am comfortable with others.
For the most part the results do ring true about me. I can relate to a lot of what was said, but I still doubt the overall accuracy of the test. A test can only tell so much by asking questions and giving possible answer choices. Emotional Intelligence is something that I feel has to be tested in person. Even this method may not be entirely accurate. People who sit and answer the questions may be trying to be honest, but may put answers to questions that they think is ‘right.’ I did my best to put how I honestly thought I would react to a certain situation, but who knows, maybe I would have a different response if the situation occurred in real life. I think the questions are great for a simple basis to analyze your emotional intelligence, but I do not think the results are as accurate as they could be.
In Frank Bellizi’s article he discussed about how the logical intelligence does not prove that you will be successful in life. The emotional intelligence of a person has a stronger impact on how you will do in your future. This I found incredibly interesting and I agree with it. Some people can know every book in the library, but if they are weak in dealing with people or moods, there is no way they can be the best. Bellizi pointed out some interesting information that really made me consider the possibility that books can do it all.
My first weakness that I would like to fix is my inability to read people. I feel that it is key to be able to understand where a person is at emotionally before trying to communicate with them. In order to fix this I am going to work harder in sometimes taking a step back when I am talking to someone and really try and listen to the best of my abilities. Hopefully I will catch some things that I did not before and be able to tell what kind of mood they are in. A second emotional weakness that I have is sharing too much too soon. I seem to trust people right off the bat and give them maybe too much benefit. Sharing my emotions and feelings with someone that I do not know too well may come back later on to hurt me. To help fix this weakness I am going to attempt to remain more reserved and open up only when I feel I have a better understanding of what type of person they are.
Developing a higher EQ may be important for several reasons. Firstly, I understand there are many people who are competing to get the same job I am. Many of whom have the same credentials on paper, but having emotional intelligence is not something that is printed on a resume. Knowing how to read a possible future employer or the person that is interviewing me for a job can help me to better suit the responses I give. Being able to separate myself from the others in my career through analyzing what I am feeling and what others are feeling can help to give me a great advantage in the future.
Subscale IQ score = 123
Subscale percentile = 95
According to my test, my emotional intelligence is “good”. “People who scored like me feel that they have little trouble understanding and dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They generally are able to overcome difficulties in their lives and they are able to control their moods in all but the most trying of times. It’s easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; this is likely due to an empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice.
At first I was more naturally inclined to agree with the results of my EQ test because I tested highly. However, I feel the test might be more accurate if some people close to me did my personal evaluation. I feel this way because I think a person might analyze themselves slightly differently than other people would (whether it be for better or worse).
In “Teaching Emotional Intelligence In The Business School Curriculim” by Frank Bellizzi, soon to be college graduates “…Will need to be prepared to integrate their technical competency with their emotional intelligence if they are to achieve success in the corporate world." If this holds true, I should hopefully be able to use my emotional intelligence to my advantage. Identifying social and emotional problems are arguably just as important in a work setting as the skill-set one provides their company with. I think group projects are a perfect example of this. Often times, it’s being able to overcome the emotional problems a team might have that helps a group become successful.
While taking this test I realized that there are many areas I can improve upon. I definitely feel awkward at times when there is a situation that calls for a social embrace such as a hug or a kiss (this question came up), and I also think that although I read people relatively well, this is an area that I can improve in. If you can read someone, you can react the right way. Since this test shows that I usually can deal with others emotions as well as my own, I think it’s important for me to be able to identify the emotions that other people may be feeling so that I can use my abilities to my advantage.
I scored 124 on the Emotional Intelligence test, which was in the 95th percentile. This means that I am able to control my emotions and make good decisions, and give good advice except in the most trying of situations. Also, this means that I am able to overcome many difficulties, am able to establish intimacy with others and have an empathetic nature.
I believe that two of my most needed emotional improvements would be overreacting to minor difficulties with those who are close to me, and concentrating on daily tasks when I faced with a ongoing problem. I plan to improve upon these things by trying to calm myself when faced with a problem and take tasks one at a time. Also, I will stop, think and look at the bigger picture when a minor problem arises. Lastly, I will give myself a chance to cool down before responding to my close ones when minor problems arise.
Developing a higher EQ would be important for my long term success professionally and personally. In either situation, I would not want to sever ties through irrational behavior with people that I may need to solve a problem in the future, or may have to work with in the future. Furthermore, having a higher EQ would help me to maintain a stress-free workplace.
Subscale IQ score: 55
subscale percentile: 0.13
Frank Bellizzi emphasizes in his article, "Teaching Emotional Intelligence in the Business School Curriculum," that it is very important for people to be comfortable with themselves in order to perform well, and that before people can help themselves, they need to understand just what exactly is wrong. This is pretty interesting and I think that the emotional test is a pretty good idea.
The test says that my emotional intelligence is very poor. It says that that I'm not very good at reading other people and have a hard time managing myself. It says that I have trouble offering help to others and that I have a hard time reaching goals. The test also says that I have a hard time dealing with my emotions. However, in my view of myself, I feel that I can deal with certain emotions like anger and hatred, since I'm a pacifist. I'm not sure, but maybe the test-makers are assuming that I cannot escape unfavorable emotions such as depression unless affected by people other than myself.
I think that a major contributing factor to my incredibly low score is that for most of the questions pertaining to the pictures I selected the "cannot be determined/none of the above" option since people do have ways of masking emotions and there really is no way to determine how someone truly feels just from a picture; one could only assume.
If I can improve my emotional intelligence then I would have a much easier time accomplishing goals and I would have a much easier time prospering in almost any possible future job venture. An improved EQ is crucial to future success because it would be such a benefit to my networking abilities.
The only suggestion that the test told me is, "Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others." This seems like an incredibly vague tip, like it could be found in a fortune cookie. However, based on the results of this test I could assume that one of my weak areas regard offering support to others who need it. The test tells me that people who score the way I do lack ideas about how best to help. This is true for me. I would love to be able to help others when they are down, but I don't really know what to tell them. Perhaps, I could improve by trial and error. This is a work in progress and I plan to do it by doing what I know I can do. Just by simply "being there" for someone and listening to them vent can be helpful.
As for my difficulty achieving goals I plan to push myself past my comfort zone and try things without fear of failure; a "nothing ventured, nothing gained" mentality. This is, of course, easier said than done, but I have to do it.
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